Married women were the least likely (4%), dating women more likely (18%), and cohabiting women most likely (20%) to have had a secondary sex partner (Forste & Tanfer, 1996). (1994), other authors report significantly lower prevalence statistics.General Social Surveys conducted in 19 showed that a mere 1.5% of married people reported having had a sexual partner other than their spouse in the year before the survey (Smith, 1991), and less than 3% of Choi, Catania, and Dolcini’s (1994) sample had engaged in EM sex in the previous 12 months.In college, “dating” is less defined – just watching TV might count as a relationship starter.
But over the course of your entire relationship, the chances of infidelity may rise to as much as 25 percent.Twenty-five percent — over the course of an entire relationship — is a far cry from the 50 percent number we hear from many so-called professionals and services trying to sell you something.It’s become so bad that some people are even making up statistics to either sell their infidelity-helping or infidelity-fighting services.For instance, one common statistic I hear thrown out there is that 50 percent of relationships involve infidelity.The 1991-1996 General Social Surveys report similar data; in those years 13% of respondents admitted to having had EM sex (Atkins, Baucom, & Jacobson, 2001).
In the 1981 National Survey of Women, 10% of the overall sample had a secondary sex partner.Sadly, that statistic is not based upon any scientific research.It’s something marketing companies just made up and use to scare (or motivate) people into buying into their service. The short answer is, “Not nearly as common as you would be led to believe.”I last talked about infidelity a few years ago, and why people cheat.College dating follows a completely different set of rules than any other dating scene.In high school, “dating” can mean anything from hanging out with a group of friends to hitting the movies one-on-one.Here are seven stats that might surprise you about the unpredictable dating scene. Twelve percent of females and 13 percent of males over the age of 21 are virgins.