Talk about why you have it, how you got it and what having an ostomy means for your body.When I told my significant other about my ostomy, I started by talking about my experience with being dangerously sick with Ulcerative Colitis, being on all sorts of harsh medications, not being able to live the life I wanted to and eventually needing surgery to save my life.
When you feel it’s the right time to tell the potential love interest about your ostomy, approach the topic with confidence.
If you seem confident and happy to have an ostomy, odds are your partner will be happy you have an ostomy, too.
There’s no rush to tell a potential partner, but if you feel that you would rather tell them sooner than later, go ahead!
Whatever feels most comfortable and natural for you is what should be done.
No matter who I’m telling about my ostomy, I always try to put a positive spin on it.
I’m never trying to evoke sympathy, but trying to help someone understand my way of life.
When I’m feeling well, our relationship has many moving parts and my ostomy doesn’t come up fairly often (we got all of that talk out of the way at the beginning of our relationship).
When I’m not feeling well we make sure our communication is open and honest. When I don’t feel well enough to go out, I tell him to go out and have fun, but that I’m not feeling up for it (although these nights usually turn into movie and cuddle nights).
Initial communication about your ostomy with a potential intimate partner should happen before the clothes come off.
I would suggest going on a few dates before talking about the ostomy so the person can get to know you on a deeper level first.
He took it upon himself to learn about Inflammatory Bowel Disease and ostomies.